Sometimes I realize a lesson in the strangest of places. Last night I had a BFO while supposedly going through my underwear drawer in my annual attempt to let go of old and unused items in my life. However I discover that for me that perhaps meant letting go of familiar and comfortable things in our lives. We all know what I am talking about. We all have those really comfortable underwear that have seen better days. The elastic is shot so the support is gone. Perhaps a hole or two around the waist band adds to the disrepair. Still there I stood folding them and putting them right back in the far back of the drawer to be used just when every other pair was dirty, or in some other “emergency” situation.
Let us admit the truth most of us do not like letting go of our stuff. We are not only physical hoarders but in many case we are mental hoarders as well. We hold on to things that are long past the expiration date. Think about the last time you reached in the fridge for a carton of milk and realized the expiration date was past. Did you pour it down the drain, or did you smell check it first? Sometimes it passes the nose test and we think heck its good for a couple more days. How many times have you gone through a pile of your clothing and decided to keep the too small jeans because you were thinking about going on a diet and losing weight. As a friend recently said to me “let them go they will make more.” Just last night I washed and put back into the cabinet a frying pan that is truly scratched beyond safe usage. The tragic part is I put it back on top of the brand new never used one I purchased 3 years ago. Seriously what the heck am I waiting on? Let it go and start using the new one which will if nothing else allow more space in my overfilled cabinet.
Mental hoarding is killing us. Let go of the past. Let go of real or perceived slights by friends and family members. A mistake was made perhaps, but does you making the mistake of holding on to the anger make it better. No it simply makes another mistake. I am not saying that we have to be all hugs and kisses about the people in our past or even in our present, but I am saying that we need to let it go and move on. Clear a space for the new and better in all areas of our lives.
Next step is our relationships. Alan Cohen says that relationships happen for “a reason, season or a lifetime.” We only get in trouble when we try to force a reason into a lifetime. Enjoy your relationships for the time we have them. Trust me the universe will let you know when it is time to release a relationship. The truly hard part is learning to listen to the universe and your own heart. I have often made the statement that I would much rather have a few really good friends than a multitude of acquaintances’. Now that it not to say that a relationship that has run it’s course as say lovers cannot change and grow into a lifetime of a best friend. Just listen to what the heart is saying and have the courage to say good bye when and if necessary.
I guess that is about all I have to say today cause I have to get busy clearing out space for whatever the new year and new life brings my way. So I guess I am saying is it's time to let go of the underwear…they will make more.
Live, Love, and Laugh out loud.
Dmr 1/20/11
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